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~Ask Phoebe Questions and Answers~
Q: Dear Phoebe, My boyfriend wants to hang out with his ex. He claims they were best
friends and that he wants to be friends again. When I said it was cool so long as we could all hang out, he got all quiet.
Do you think he still wants to hook up with her? ~Confused and in Love
A: Maybe he just wants a bit
of alone time with her, maybe they need to sort something out or need a private talk about something. But you could be right
he could want to hook up with her. But if he did I think he would have split up with you first, If it gets to much for you
I would just probly split up with him. Wouldnt you rather go out with a boy that loves you or a boy that is maybe trying to
go back out with his ex. I personally think that maybe he still hasn't got over her spliting up with him and they need time
to talk about it. If he does deside to split up with you I think you should hold your head high and find another guy. If it
still carries on mail me back thanks Phoebe Halliwell xx
We would just like to add....
Pryce: If your boy ask you if it was alright with you then he most likely wants to be open and honest. A key part of a
healthy relationship. The fact that he got quiet is a little suspicious however, if I were to try to become friends with my
ex again I wouldn't want my current beau hanging around. That's just a little disrespectful and like rubbing thier nose in
it. Give them a little time to reestablish their old 'friends-only' relationship. A good relationship is built on trust. Then
try to hang out all together. If after a while he is still resistant, confront him. Then make your decision on whether to
keep dating him or not. ~Piper Halliwell
I think that maybe he doesn't want to damage the fragile relationship that him and his ex have. Think of it, you
already have broken up with this person that must have been some heart break, and you're trying to rebuild a relationship
to friends with that hurt still in wide eyes. Then while you're doing that you have the 'new' flaunting around with you, maybe
making your ex feel like the third wheel and not worth as much to get your undivided attention. I think it isn't that he wants
to hook up with her just that he wants to develop a more sturdy relationship before he goes and brings you into it. So if
you really don't trust your man enough with his ex I would say this, hang as a group. Try not to make his ex feel like the
extra baggage on trips and such by getting together with lots of friends to do stuff, but be careful try not to plain it so
its all couples going or else his ex might feel like the odd person out. Also by doing this hang with your other friends not
hover over your boyfriends side the whole time crushing any none you related conversation with his ex. ~Prue Halliwell
Q:
Dear Phoebe, There is a kid in my school who likes' me. The only problem is that, A) he likes everyone in the school at one
point or another and B) the fact that I dont like his personality and can stand him but think him anoying and dumb. Plus he
has tried to date everyone of my friends and failed, but he keeps trying for months. I dont have time to deal with that sort
of thing, how can I tell him to just leave me alone once and for all? From,Desperatly Confused
A:Desperatly
Confused, You have to ask him nicely to leave you alone and maybe find someone who he likes (which won't be very hard) and
also someone who likes him. There must be somebody in your class who sort of likes him and wouldn't mind going out if there
isn't then try another class or maybe one of your friends out of school. You could say something like: To be honest, I don't
really like you (Not much, like I hate you. If he is very sensitive try and lay it down as much as possible) and don't really
want to go out with you. Maybe you can try someone else from a diffrent year? Or maybe one of your friends from out of school?
Its just I don't really think that its going to work out. Sorry., Try something like that. If you have any more problems with
this boy or he still doesn't leave you alone. Then come back and ask me. Thank you from Phoebe Halliwell xx
We would just like to add....
Pryce: Well, you need to be polite and be assertive. You need to
let him know that no is no and thats that. Besides, he is a player and I'm sure he is used to rejection. After all you said
all your friend turned him down. Probably the best way to truely get rid of him if he continues to persist is to give him
the cold shoulder. Just totally and completely ignore him. It might seem a little harsh, but your not his friend and he'll
most likely move onto somebody that he thinks he has a chance on. ~Piper Halliwell
First thing I would do is wait a day or two and see if his 'crush' blows over. You said that
he has liked almost everyone in the school so maybe someone else will catch his eye and you won't have to do anything. If
that doesn't work I would go up to him during school one day and tell him that you don't really think of him as anything more
then a friend. If he seems sort of crushed I would tell him that he is a great guy but you like him more as one would like
a brother then as a boyfriend. Still if he doesn't leave you alone I would resort to either dating someone else. (If there
is someone you like) Thus making you not get able or just avoiding him. If avoiding him isn't an option and he is in your
class or something just hang more with friends and stuff so if he comes up to you, you can fall back on the support of your
friends and have them tell him to back off if you don't want too. If he still doesn't leave you alone I would get very cautious,
this much of a crush can't be healthy, if he seems to be always hovering around I would get some profession help from a teacher
or parent and have them tell him to leave you alone. ~Prue Halliwell
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